
1. It’s All About Them –The Adored, the All-Wise, All-Knowing, of Supreme Intelligence, The Savior, The Ham, The All Important One - AND It’s Whatever is Best for THEM -Whatever WORKS for THEM!
2. Entitled: Everyone is here to serve them. You/we are simply seen as a tool to get what they desire and need. And once they have used you up, taken advantage of and abused you, you are of no further use to them, and you are discarded. They work very hard now to ensure that everyone is convinced that it was your fault – you are the problem and always have been the problem. They also use it to get sympathy and to find their next “tool”.
3. They’re Victims and usually have come from a troubled childhood – and now you and the world owe them. They feel envious of what others have and feel that they deserve to have what others have.
4. They're DESPERATE for PRAISE and ADORATION – they crave attention, and love like it was food. They will do anything to obtain your approval, praise and mostly, loyalty.
5. They Hide Behind a Mask – Well Constructed - and show the world what they want them to see and not what they really are. They show a caring nature and do things to show that they care when in fact, they do not. The act is to cause you to adore them and praise them. They crave praise like food and when you no longer feed their purposes, desires and ego, you become tasteless – they don’t want you anymore.
6. They Demand Loyalty. If, and when you finally come to your senses and see behind their façade or even begin to show them that you no longer trust them entirely; that you no longer fully adore, honor and respect them as you once did – they suddenly do not trust you and begin looking for someone else. Once they secure that someone and somewhere else to mooch, sucker, use - they are gone. You are made to look like the crazy person while they lie and make up stories so that their façade or mask is not discovered. They’ll do anything to discredit you so that their cover is not blown, and risk being discovered for who and what they really are.
7. They’re HUGE LIARS and lying is a real problem for them. Whatever they have to do or say to protect their self-image, even when they know it’s a flat out lie, they will do to protect their image, enabling them to continue their charade to their death and undoing and final demise because eventually, it all doesn’t work, and they have nowhere else to go.
8. They Are Never Wrong and Will Never Admit That They Are Wrong or at Fault.
9. They Are Not Good with Intimacy – and Often Use It as a Tool of Manipulation. This is due to their unwillingness to be vulnerable and open. And since they need to be in control, they instead often use sex as a manipulative tool by often denying you sex and intimacy simply to break you down, to mess with you mentally and emotionally and as a mean of control in a most tender area of life. This causes the person to become putty in their hands and to make them willing to do anything to obtain acceptance - to win their approval – anything, to please. Just what the narcissist is looking for: total dominance! You end up feeling rejected, unattractive, demoralized, lonely, not good enough and so much more! Once you no longer seek after intimacy from them, that’s when they are willing to give it. This keeps you out of balance, confused and loyal to them – like giving you a treat (the abuse cycle).
10. They Lack Empathy. They do not care about the feelings of others (though they may act like they do – gaslighting you). Truthfully, they only care about themselves. They’re not at all in touch with the feelings and needs of others because it’s (always) all about them. They are what’s important and as they would say, “and don’t forget it”.
11. Display Extreme Self-Centeredness and Selfishness. Unfortunately, the only time you will be happy in this relationship is when the needs of the narcissist are being met. They don’t give a hoot about what you want or wish. They gladly will deny you what you want (if they happen to know what that is), just to control and manipulate you. They use it as a carrot – “someday – if you give me what I want first” (kind of thinking).
12. They’re Master Manipulators – They love to mess with you, gaslight you and practice a lot of “mind-fucking”.
13. They Have a Belief That They Are Special and Unique – The perfect cult leaders come from this belief.
If you'd like to hear a story of the above being played out - check out my book on Amazon: Awakening from Unconscious Resentment - and my contribution to the Book: Stories of Becoming Myself (Chapter 5) or -go to my website: https://www.angelasinspirations.com Also: Angela is an Empower Her Life Coach. Check it out by going to her website (above).
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